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I work with people to relieve issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship problems, addiction and eating disorders.
I also work with shorter term issues such as coping with big life changes, and do coaching to help people achieve specific goals and projects, and deal with work issues.
Thoughts, articles and musings
Below is my personal blog. Feel free to have a read and start a conversation.
This is a tragic story about a man who committed suicide at age 38 after having undergone therapy from the age of five to try and make him less feminine. His mother claimed she wanted him to have a normal life.
Assuming the mother’s motivation was as she claimed, and not the result of latent homophobia brought on by having an effeminate son, this shows how misguided people can be in trying to help children; sometimes parents worry about what their children will face from society if they are ‘not normal’ and these fears can create more problems than they solve. Building a strong, resilient sense of self so one can experience the joy of being comfortable in one’s own skin, despite what others might say or think, seems a much worthier goal.
At the opposite end of the spectrum are the parents who are raising their child “genderless” by not revealing its sex to anybody outside the immediate family.
A woman riding her bike in New York City is stopped by a policeman. Why? She was wearing a skirt, and the policeman said that her exposed skin may be a distraction to motorists and cause them to crash. He threatened to fine her and told her to change into trousers!
Is this a case of sexual harassment and abuse of power by a New York police officer against a female cyclist, or is it possible that this cop really believes he was acting in the public interest? If the cop was genuine his action seems more suitable to Afghanistan’s Taliban than the land of the free.
The New York Review of Books features an interesting article about the epidemic of mental illness in the US, which reviews three new books about the large number of people proscribed anti-depressant and other psycho-active medication, and questioning how effective those treatments are. The move to psycho-pharmacology, the reasons why it happened, and the uncertain results, are all well worth discussing, however many people have gained great relief and help from such medications and I would not wish to denigrate or deny their experiences. Others have had rather less positive experiences.
There have been a wave of slut walks around the world recently; Sydney is having one today. The slut walks have evolved as a response to a security guard on a US university campus advising students not to “dress like sluts” to avoid being raped.
I see these slut walks as a welcome discussion about not blaming victims of sexual assault; the victim is not where the focus should be. Rape victims are still heavily cross-examined during court trials and asked what they were wearing.
Maternity leave is over for me, and I’m back at work. I plan on updating this blog as regularly as I can manage – hope you find something interesting here.
Welcome to my new site. My practice is currently on hold while I’m on maternity leave, but feel free to take a look around while you’re here.